I would venture to say that all beginners struggle with this. Think of it like a little kid learning to walk: they look awkward, it’s clumsy, and they have no idea what to do with those feet for a little while.
You’re teaching your hands to do something they’ve never done before, so be patient with yourself. I remember being so frustrated when I first started because I could not fret an F-chord without my ring finger laying across 2 strings. Now, it’s not even an issue. Practice using the tip of your fingers, and not the pad. This might hurt a little while until you get some calluses built up, but you’ll get there.
A lot of my learning to fret chords came from watching a ukulele video. I’ll have to see if I can find it. In principle, he taught his students to move one finger at a time when learning new chord transitions, and then speed it up each time you do it until your fingers learn where to go. Once they get that down, they’ll go their naturally all at the same time.
I hope that’s your question, if not just let me know and I won’t charge you for the advice