Sarcasm isn’t a great way to respond to people asking for help.
This is my Father’s world
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The sarcasm wasn’t in response to the request for help. It was in response to his bragging of what he had accomplished and yet apparent lack of knowledge.
I think we are done with this conversation. Andrew.
I am always here if you need help on another topic.
I accept that you are done with the conversation, so I don’t expect a response. I anticipated this conversation ending when you apologized to run_red_run…
“his bragging of what he had accomplished and yet apparent lack of knowledge.”
Providing details on experience when asking for help is common sense, not bragging. We all learn at a different pace, and learn some aspects of the music differently than others. That’s why people ask for help on the things they aren’t getting out of the classes themselves.
While I do believe you are an asset to this forum and often provide enormous amounts of helpful advice, in this case I believe you are misguided.
Asking for help takes a lot of courage, and faith that the people you are asking won’t belittle your lack of accomplishment or experience, and instead will focus on providing helpful advice (like your first couple of responses to this thread).
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The apology I expected was for the bad language used. Not for me personally but for the community some of whom are youngsters.
If you expect apologies from others when they are in the wrong, it seems to me that’s you should freely give them when you are in the wrong.
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Sarcasm can be used in a humorous way about a lot of topics.
My personal opinion is that sarcasm directed at people is not a good idea. Particularly to people who are new. Particularly to people who are asking for help.
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Since we’re all commissioned to hold down this forum while Ben is busy moving, let’s be sure to get along here. 
I don’t think anyone intended anything to come across wrong. @run_red_run, welcome to the community! When Ben comes back I’m sure he’ll help you out. Meantime there’s probably lots of other things for you to enjoy working on. And it looks to me like @Archie was just trying to help; everyone stay friendly. 
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Nice @Michael_Mark. I was going to do the same thing (TEF) after reading this thread this morning. You got it. Very good.
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Thank you @Michael_Mark
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Proverbs 15:1
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First of all I’m a woman. Not a he. I apologize for using crude language. I should have used the word hassled like was suggested in another comment. I was not bragging about completing courses. I was only saying I didn’t start 3 days ago as you sarcastically suggested. I have completed the majority of the beginners checklist. So it wasn’t that your advice didn’t sit well…it was that I had already done that. Except for the build a breaks. Which I have been working on this week thanks to other advice. I didn’t realize that was bragging as it means I’m still just a beginner and of course lack experience. I only wanted help in tabbing out this song so I could play it with my children. Or looking for it already tabbed out. I realize I am a beginner. I have tried to tab this song out myself but it doesn’t sound right. I have been trying for a few weeks actually. Obviously yes I’m not there yet. That’s why I was asking for help. Thank you to those that were helpful. I’m sorry this turned into a mess and apologize to anyone reading that I didn’t intend for it to turn into this. And I apologize to Banjo Ben in case he reads this. I tried to just delete the thread but it wouldn’t let me.
And also thank you so much Michael_Mark for tabbing this out for me. You’ve made my day! It sounds amazing! And JohnnyD I agree. Instead of responding in anger I should have just ignored his comment.
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Hi Erin, I apologize for my sarcastic remark, I guess I was out of order too which triggered your response. I also apologise for thinking you were a male. It’s a common first name in Ireland and I just assumed you were male.
I hope that we can move on from this and be friends. I am always here if you need help.
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I accept your apology, all good. Also, @Archie means well, rest assured. He’s here to help. Just know he’s Scottish and his direct manner is often misinterpreted by Americans as being rude.
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It’s a common name here too, it’s just typically spelled “Aaron” for male and “Erin” for female.
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