Welcome to the forum @hisnorthernlight! I’d like to second the question from Ben…what kind of banjo do you have? I’m not sure what he has in mind to say, but from personal experience can say my first banjo was an open-back without a metal tone ring…so the pot was not very heavy and I had the exact same problem with the exact same model strap. It was very comfortable, but the headstock kept drooping and I had to spend too much energy keeping it up. While the strap is plenty soft enough, it lacked the needed friction with my shoulder. In my case, it helped to pick clothing that had more of a texture, and put a terry-cloth towel in my lap, or wrap a terry wash-cloth around the strap where it sits on my shoulder. If none of these ideas give you good results, you may want stitch or glue something like terry cloth or suede or velvet onto the strap where it contacts your shoulder. If all else fails, a wide strap made of soft suede leather might work better for you. Wishing you great success, Shoshannah!