Hi Steve.
Here is what I do. I play the TEF File in TablEdit at a slow speed say 60 - 65 with headphones on. Banjo in Right Ear, Guitar in left ear I LISTEN over and over till I have the melody in my head. I then try to play along with the TAB. Sometimes it works right off the bat sometimes I crash and burn. I try it a few times, if I continue to crash I pause the TEF File and work on the segment that’s causing me grief. I repeat the process. Sometimes this can go on for weeks / months. Especially if it’s an advanced level lesson.
Once I can play along with the TEF File at 60 - 65 [my starting point] I’ll notch the speed up 5 points to 70 - 75 LISTENING as I practice. As I make progress I notch it up another 5.
The key to drawing out the melody notes largely falls on the THUMB but sometimes the melody falls on the Index or Middle Fingers. Watch/Listen to @BanjoBen play through the tune in the preview get a FEEL for the tune. FIND THE GROOVE.
You have to learn to walk a mile before you can begin to run a marathon. Be patient, persevere and practice as often as you can. Believe you can do it and you’ll find that you can.
Post a video let Ben see where you are at