https://banjobenclark.com/lessons/learning-to-listen-as-a-musician-intermediate
Jake and I sat down to have a conversation about the art of listening while playing with others. Music is like a conversation, and it’s important to know how to navigate that conversation—becoming a conversation partner who makes others better!
I really Enjoyed the lesson! It made think more about supporting the lead player or singer, instead of being all fancy and a show off.
I really liked that analogy about music being a conversation, it takes “playing music” to a whole other level for me! Thank you @BanjoBen @Jake for the lesson!
Blessings!
Kaden Albritton
“If you see value in everyone else’s playing, you put yourself in a position to become the kind of player we’re talking about.” (slightly paraphrased)
I like how the message of being humble translates so well to playing with others. Music would be a terrible experience if everyone was in it to show off.
“If you let your lack of confidence, you’re insecurities, your inhibitions keep you from going out and having conversations [or jamming] with people, then you’re going to miss out on some of the richest dimensions of music.”
Can confirm! Most of my life I’ve played banjo sitting in front of my computer. It didn’t really get fun until I started going to jams. Sometimes it can be nerve-racking, but it’s always worth it.
Great lesson, guys!
Wonderful lesson and insightful. I am someone that is an at home playing music by myself player. Luckily, these days there are backing tracks, and apps that help, this website, so we are not completely left to our own devices. I have played with others just a few times and there is nothing else that compares to that. I am not a a seasoned player and not really very good, but more than a beginner. The point about listening to what others are doing and be a support, and can be a support, even at a low level really resonates with me. Thank you for this lesson.
2 ears, 1 mouth
I LOVED this lesson! Actually, it’s a good life lesson. So good to be reminded that being the best technician on our instrument isn’t everything in our music journey. . . . Thank you Ben and Jake!
This lesson reminded me of one of my Cabin Camp experiences that I have talked about many times over the years. It wasn’t until after watching this lesson that it finally all made sense.
I was at @BanjoBen house for a Camp several years ago and I ended up in a jam where Kenny Smith was to my left and Jake Stogdill was to my right. I noticed immediately that my banjo backup rolls seemed easier to stay in time, and when it came time for my solo I played it pretty well and felt really good about it. I always assumed it was mainly because of the amazing rhythm they were laying down on both sides, but I now am realizing that they are expert listeners as well. I have been in lots of jams, but I will never forget how that one felt so much different!
Agreed! Lol! Yes, but seriously…it’s a major part.
@Bcaves I have experienced the same many times, especially with Kenny. He will make you play better whether you’re trying or not…just magical.
One thing is for sure, I have taken bass players for granted way too much! Also any time @mharrison43 is in the circle the circle is better. 
Yes we do! I’ll give you a call one day when I’m headed to Athens
Wow! Wow! Wow! This was so good and motivating. It makes me want to go home and practice to become the best backup player I can be - to get to where it can become natural enough that I can listen and adapt. Backup is no longer just an obligation or duty to perform, it’s an opportunity and privilege to serve others.
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. We need to jam more than once a year!!